I’ve recently come across a fight for a fourteen year old child who wants to breastfeed her new born baby in a high school class room. Um I’m sorry but why should the school allow a child to breast feed their child and disrupt other children? Why spend the extra money that schools already need and don’t have to build accommodations for a child to breast feed her baby?
This is my honest opinion, but there is birth control, condoms, or even abstaining from sex there are preventative choices, and even adoption if a teen does get pregnant. (No, I’m not going to add abortion , that is a completely different debate.) Condoms are free if you go to a clinic, as is STD testing and even birth control. Birth control is also covered under every insurance for help with acne, cramps, severe PMS, and other things.. I was on birth control for years because of ovarian cysts. As a teenager.
You see a teenager has one job, to be a kid. To go to school, get an education and have fun. Maybe work to save for college and get good grades. If a teenager wants to have a child well then its time to head into big kid land. Yes home schooling is a viable option as is online or blended learning, however those options are there because they work, and you can still get a job. Babies are expensive, even if you do breast feed, (formula last priced for a friend yesterday was $20 a can.) you’re still having to buy diapers, clothing, blankets, bedding, cradles, cribs, dressers, car seats, plus medications, shots etc. Why glamorize a teen mom going to school, breast feeding and making it look easy?
When I was in high school there was two pregnant girls in my class. One of them gave birth Freshman year of high school and the other sophmore year. They were shamed, this was before the days of TV shows giving thousands of dollars to irresponsible teenagers who glorify being a teen mom. Let me tell you after meeting one of them and actually being in their lives for awhile and hearing all those behind the scenes none of them have it all together.
Being a Mommy or a Daddy is a full time job. Just like being a teenager is a full time job. Hell I’m 28 and I’m not sure if I want children right at this given moment in time because I don’t believe I’m ready. How the hell is a 16 year old kid going to convince anyone that they are ready?
I’m not judging or bashing. I do understand that sometimes accidents happen, rape happens, or hell even antibiotics But instead of enabling bad life choices, why not fight for better education, making sure the choices are completely understood. Fighting for better health classes were every child and have one of those electronic babies to take home for awhile. Or better yet, let them work in a hospital voluntarily in NICU where they can see babies and what happens when the mother’s aren’t ready, are young, drug addicts, or if the mother’s have health issues. (Not all NICU babies end up there. My sister was a NICU baby because she was born with a double hernia.) No matter the reason having to be around these worried heart broken parents might help teens see the REAL side of life. Not the MTV side of life.
I sign a lot of petitions, but this is one I will not be signing. Children having Children is NOT a good idea. If you’re still a teenager legal or not, you have your whole life ahead of you, why rush things? Being an adult sucks at times. Being a kid… you can’t ever get that back.